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I just think some people can have sex without emotions and some cannot. I don't think it's like a skill you can acquire. Although...hell, maybe it is.
I've had trouble with the opposite. I've always felt like I date like a man, "Come please me, and then get the fuuuudge out of my house." Hahah I would always tells guys, "Nope. Sorry, no sleepovers. I don't like to share my bed" or the old "Sorry but I'm really tired, and I have to be somewhere early in the AM." Hahah hahahaha ha *sigh*
But I'm not looking for that anymore, now I'm past that stage and trying to find someone to be with long term. It's definitely TOUGH! It's so much easier to just bone someone when you need it (and I may or may not have a friend on call for those tough days) but it's definitely more rewarding when emotion is involved.
Sex between two people can be great.
Sex between two people who like each other is usually fantastic.
When 2 people are in love, it isn't called sex, it's called making love, and the possibilities are limitless.
I couldnt even get aroused by someone I didnt have feelings for and I wouldnt want it any other way. Like Shoes said..rabbit or dolphin or whatever animal they are attaching to dildos these days.
OMG those would sel like hotcakes here in the Midwest!
You mean, they'd sell like corn cakes.
Once upon a time, I had sex with men I had no feelings for other than.."they were great in the sack."
It was a time in my life where I didn't want that emotional bond or commitment to a person, but I wanted sex. I was totally able to have sex without feeling emotional attachment. ( I think it was a side-effect of a failed first marriage. )
My motto was "Wham, bam thank you...sir." ( Haha )
That time in my life is over, and I'm very happily married to my second ( and last ) husband. I am more than happy to be with only one man and to have a very deep and special bond with him.
For me, a lady has to have a certain level of personality and intelligence for me to be attracted to them, even just for sex.
I am definitely one of those that has to have an emotional connection to someone to want to be intimate. It's frustrating because lately I am just getting alot of guys messaging or chatting who just want a random hookup, friends with benefits, or cyber/sexting. And alot of them don't take no for an answer very easily.
There'd have to be an emotional connection for it to work for me. I could never just be casual with my body.